now would be the absolute funniest time for tumblr to unban porn

I can't find the post but it said something like "biphobia will have bi women believe that society wants them to be lesbians, and lesbophobia will have lesbians believe that society wants them to be bi, but the truth is society doesn't want you to be bi or lesbian. they want you to be straight" or something like that. I saw it for the first time years ago and it's stuck with me because this mindset will genuinely resolve so much of queer infighting.

Allosexual queer people will believe that society wants them to be ace and aces will believe that society wants them to be allosexual queers, and the truth is society wants you to be allosexual but only sexually attracted to the right gender in the right way.

Trans men will believe that society wants them to be nonbinary, and nonbinary people will believe that society wants them to be binary trans, and the truth is society wants you to be cis.

And the thing is, there's some truth to "I would be more accepted if I was [this queer identity] instead of [that queer identity]," because there are groups of people who will want you to be a different queer identity. There are people who want their lesbian daughters to be bi because then they have a chance of marrying a man. There are allosexual gays who want to be ace because at least then they wouldn't be sexually attracted to their own gender, which is dirty and gross and wrong. There are people who want their trans male friends to be nonbinary because they think men are all evil.

Except there are also people who would rather bi women be lesbians because dating men makes them a traitor to the queer community, or aces who want to be allosexual and gay because if they can't be attracted to the opposite gender at least they'll be attracted to someone, and people who want their nonbinary friends to be binary trans because nonbinary people are made up and stealing resources.

Society at large doesn't want you to be any queer identity. They have a very narrow idea of what you should be, and so many ideas and rules telling you what you shouldn't be. And sometimes, people unlearn some of those rules but not others, depending on who they're around while forming these opinions. Some people will unlearn exorsexism but still drink the "men are evil" juice. Some people will unlearn homophobia but not amatonormativity.

So, sometimes queer people say things like "People would accept me more if I was [different queer identity]." And sure, some people would accept you more if you were that other identity. Except some people would accept you less. Maybe your parents would accept you more if you were bi instead of lesbian, but your friends would say being bi makes you a traitor.

And in the end, it doesn't matter, because there's way to win. "More accepted" is a very relative term. More accepted by some people, sure, but you won't be really be accepted unless you're not queer.

This is really really true. I’m saving this and keeping it to read for all the times *I* catch myself feeling this way, and sharing it because it’s something pretty much every LGTBQIA+ person could do with internalising.

Hole :)

@5amanthus

honestly

friends to lovers never had a bad track. “scared i’ll ruin what we have” SLAPS. “friendship cuddles while secretly dying inside” BANGER. “teasing each other and holding eye contact for a little too long” KILLS ME. and don’t even get me STARTED on “screaming i love you in the middle of a heated argument.”

An unused 1990's era idea sketch for a SANDMAN pinup: Death sewing the AIDS quilt.

oh hey, someone put that thing i was mad about yesterday into words!

I couldn't agree more with OP here.

excellent point by tumblr user zaxal

So here's my Easter post about why my Jewish ass thinks the name of Jesus is funny

So Jesus and the apostles and everyone else were semitic. They spoke Hebrew and Aramaic. So Jesus's original Hebrew name is Yeshua.

In the western canon, the names of Jesus's apostles and many others were Hellenized (i.e., translated to Ancient Greek) and then Anglicized (translated to English).

So the disciple John was originally known as Yochanan in Hebrew. This was Hellenized to Ioannes, then Anglicized to John.

For more examples:

Hebrew > Hellenized > Anglicized

• Myriam > Maria > Mary
• Mattiyahu > Matthios > Matthew

This process of translation happens with many biblical names, particularly New Testament.

Except for Jesus Himself.

Jesus's name is only Hellenized. Yeshua to Jesus. Then in the Western canon, it stops there. Why?

I posit a simple answer: it would sound weird if Jesus's name were Anglicized.

Josh turned water into wine.

Josh died for your sins.

Josh will come again to judge the living and the dead.

@apocrypals